Changes in Life


    You there! How are you doing today? Yes, you, the reader. Have you ever had to deal with life changes? It could be a physical, or emotional shift in your life? What is your attitude toward change and how do you deal with it? Have you given that change any consideration? Have you ever thought about why something happened to you in particular?

    There have been many times in my life when I have been completely unaware of the changes taking place around me. It's possible that I'm the person who everyone thought, "Oh, it'll be fine for her." "I'm confident she'll get it." "I'm confident she'll say yes.” I'll never deny that at some point in my life, I became the type of person who couldn't say "no" when someone asked for a favour. The type of person who tries to understand and accept everything, even if she doesn't like it or she's hurting because of it, all you could hear about her was "Go! I'll back you up! I'm so proud of you!” she exclaims, and she's the type of person who doesn't try to fight for herself or her rights; instead, she just goes along with the flow. And now, yes, I admit that I have evolved into that person.

    However, I recently became aware of one change that made me reflect on myself.

    I met someone I never expected or thought I would meet in my entire life. It was this person who helped me realize what I truly desire and what I am truly content with. I become more open to myself rather than to others. After meeting this person, I've transformed into the person I really want to be: someone who values herself above all else and doesn't care what other people think, someone who knows how to say "no," someone who can say whatever she wants when she's happy or sad, and someone who loves herself for who she is rather than what others think.

    I know what you're thinking after reading the last paragraph: "That's good for her." "She has a clear idea of what she wants now. I'm content with her,” but what if I told you that the changes in my life were causing harm to those around me? Because of the changes that occurred in my life, I began to injure others as a result of my increased self-confidence. What I thought was an exchange of my happiness for others' suffering and sadness. What I realized is that we cannot have both our own happiness and the happiness of others in this lifetime at the same time. But, hey, you never know. In life, we are still in the process of learning.

    But, why do you think I'm telling you all of this right now? Because I want you to think about and know yourself, and I want you to value yourself more than anyone else. Now, consider the changes that have occurred in your life. Are you going to be able to grow as a person as a result of these changes? What impact do those changes have on you? Which do you think you'll choose: your happiness or the happiness of others? But, okay, let's try and practice to choose both.

    Don't sacrifice your happiness for the sake of others' happiness, and don't sacrifice other people's happiness for your own happiness. Let us choose happiness for ourselves and others! Let's be happy knowing our limits, and let's be happy knowing that we're not hurting other people. Always keep yourself safe and happy. May the almighty God always bless you and your beautiful heart.😊😊


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